Creating Affirmations

Common Mistakes when creating affirmations I thought we would begin with stating some of the errors that are made when creating affirmations: State the affirmation as a desire or something you are striving for e.g. I want to …… State what you don’t want e.g I don’t want… State affirmations that others want you to be, do or have State unrealistic intentions e.g I am a champion skier when you have never seen snow State affirmations as goals Now that you know what you affirmations aren’t lets look at the Seven Steps to creating affirmations Three Simple Steps to Creating Affirmations We can set affirmations in the Seven Areas of life which are:  Spiritual, Mental, Vocational, Financial, Family, Social and Physical.  Ideally you want to create 1 or 2 for each area. Step 1:  Get Started – published is better than perfection The most challenging thing about creating affirmations is often getting started.  I find the easiest way to start is to begin with a list of “I am” statements.  Write down all the empowering thoughts that come to mind,  without any filtering.  Have fun “I am doing what I love”, “I have wealth all around me”, Step 2:  Filtering your thoughts Take a look at your list and now start filtering out what doesn’t work.  Look at each statement and ask yourself: Is this believable? Is this empowering? does it make me feel something? Step 3: Post them all over for you to fully become your affirmations What you do in this step will be personal to you.  These are some ideas where you can post your affirmations...

Your life will never be the same

Knowing what to expect is important when navigating the  divorce  recovery process Divorce is life changing – your life will never be the same.   Once you learn how to navigate the emotional waves and the life changes of divorce, you will be able to appreciate this experience and master your life.   You won’t be able to have the same lifestyle, your friends will change, and you will also change.  With your determination, support and courage, you will be stronger and more resilient after this experience.  Everything that you do now is as a single person again.  You have the opportunity to grow and gain wisdom like no other time in your life. Mindset and openness to learn, is key to how quickly you are able to get over your breakup and on with your life. If you set the intention that you are able and willing to learn and grow from your breakup you will be setting yourself up for success. The following are key aspects of the divorce recovery process, which you need to be aware of   Be your own best friend The process of divorce is mentally draining; beating yourself up, judging yourself and having unrealistic expectations of yourself during this time will only add to your pain. You may feel that you didn’t have a choice in you splitting up, but you do have a choice in how you react to your circumstances. If you are feeling that you are unlovable at the moment, or you are stuck in a cycle of beating yourself up,  get help from a coach or counsellor –...

Valentine’s Day after divorce

Valentine’s Day after divorce  can be very tough.  Valentines Day, is based on you needing some one else to make you feel special.  Without some one on your side the feeling of disappointment, anger, blame and self pity may take a hold of you again.   Be prepared for them take each feeling and just sit with it for a while.  Your feelings are there to teach you something.  What lesson do your feeling hold for you?  Every event that occurs is an opportunity for us to learn, about ourselves and others.  We cannot see anything in others that we don’t already have within ourselves. The more we ourselves for who we truly are, the more we can love others.  And it is through the events in our lives, that we learn about where we are not being  loving towards ourselves.  When we experience events such as cheating, betrayal, disappointment, anger or blame committed by others.  The universe is highlighting the traits that we are not loving ourselves for. This Valentine’s Day after divorce take back your power, through taking the events that you feel are devastating as an opportunity to love yourself more. Cheating comes in many different forms, you may have wished that they were like someone else you know.  You may have fantasied about being with someone else.  In your mind you may have created a perfect situation with this other person.  It’s always there, you need to have the courage to look and find it. When it comes to disappointment you will find that you have disappointed your ex and others.  It may be that you...

Determination

Separation or divorce is challenging.  You might be at the stage, where being able to pick your head up from the pillow each morning can seem to be the hardest thing to do. One of the character traits that you will build as you work through this process, is determination.  Determination to make the changes that you need to make.  Determination that you are willing to go the extra mile to see you ex in a different way.   Determination to build a new life for yourself.  This is easier said than done.  It is very easy to get overwhelmed and slip into a life of acceptance and defeat. When you feel that you have no will and that you just don’t have it in you.  Remember we all have determination build into us,  it’s just a matter of being able to consciously tap into it.   Determination often shows up in areas that you are the most comfortable,  so it’s natural that in your  current situation,  it is challenging to be aware of your innate determination.  You will need to make a conscious effort to remember the events in your life when you have displayed determination.    Keep listing as many as you can think of, the more you list the more you will become consciously aware of how you have determination within yourself. The two words that that undermine your determination are “I can’t ….. ” .  These two words tell you soo much about how you are limiting yourself.  The next time you catch yourself saying “I can’t …”  turn it around and ask yourself  “What if I...