Communication Breakdown

There are many reasons why marriages fail but they all have a common thread – communication breakdown.  It doesn’t matter how in love your once were, the failure to communicate to each other is the root of relationship breakdown. As a couple we age, we change, and there is nothing you can do about that.  And it’s through this changing process that our relationship adjusts with our partners.  If we grow at the same speed in the the same areas, chances are we will have a very “smooth” relationship.  But the changes of this occurring are very slim, if at all likely to happen.  Our changing perceptions of the world reflect what and in which areas we have  grown.  When your perceptions and your partners perceptions become less aligned arguments and disagreements occur leading to communication breakdown. There are numerous tools and techniques out there that we can use to assist in avoiding communication breakdown with not only our partner/ex-partner but in all relationships. Today I am going to discuss The Values Determination process created by Dr. John Demartini.  This is a set of 13 questions, which evaluates what our lives are currently showing is most important to us.  These values aren’t based on morals or virtues or like a shopping list of words where you pick the words that resonate with you.  These questions are designed to extract your values without interference of your logical brain. Now it may be tempting to answer the questions from the perspective of what you would like the answer to be but I urge not to do this.  Imagine walking into the...